Patience is considered one of the greatest virtues that the human being can conquer.Yes, you can conquer it, and avoiding harmful habits that suck your resilience is one of the ways to achieve it.
However, even people considered more patient, time or time out of control.That’s why you need to have some “tricks up your sleeve” for when it squeezes.
For example, after working the whole week, cleaning the domingão and bathing the dog, notice that “suspicious” smell coming from inside the house clean and still catch the little man with his face full of grease.
You may be thinking now, “If this ever tests your patience, imagine I have three children.”Yeah!
The truth is that our ability to be patient is often influenced by the context in which we find ourselves .It is relatively easy to maintain patience when we have no responsibility.
On the other hand, the more roles we play in our day-to-day lives, the greater the challenge.Consequently, the greater is also the importance of maintaining patience in the most difficult moments of our daily lives.
Emotional self-control, tolerance, empathy and silence are fundamental allies in this quest.And so that perseverance through a light, serene, tranquil state of mind does not seem like a “seven-headed bug,” we’ve selected 10 tips to never lose your temper.
The first step not to get disheveled in screams, swearing, insults and misunderstandings is to breathe.
It seems silly, but the vast majority of the population does not know how to breathe consciously .
This is because, because it is an indispensable act for any living being, it ends up functioning automatically.
The result is that not only do we breathe inadequately , we stop filtering the air when breathing through our mouths, but we also fail to take advantage of much of our lung capacity, making short, rapid, and breathless breaths.
At a time when patience seems to rush out the back door, as problems all come in at once through the front door, being able to breathe deeply can be a decisive attitude for you.
Do the experiment the next opportunity:
Identify your impatient state by beginning to emerge;
Close your eyes;
Inhale deeply through the nose, if possible counting to 4;
Exhale slowly (if you could do the count in the inspiration, repeat it in the exhalation);
Repeat four to nine times and watch yourself.
If the will to “kill one” is still present, keep reading the other steps:
2. Everyone wants to be happy
There are those who volunteer and feel very good about it.
There are those who stick the bank queue for being in the right to do so and believe that they are acting for their own happiness.
Consciously or unconsciously, we all act with one purpose in common: to be happy.
I know that it is very difficult to understand how certain people can use, for example, hate speech to foment violence or simply steal public coffers while thousands of people die of hunger, disease and lack of education.
I confess that I feel my stomach wrap when I come across certain situations and I do not defend omission as a resource.
But before losing your sacred patience, remember that deep down in that being there is someone looking for happiness as much as we do something that helps a lot.
This is nothing more than an exercise in empathy .
I understand that no one wants to – voluntarily – empathize with intolerant politicians, for example.
But, think: is responding with the same degree of intolerance the best solution?
3. Things change in the blink of an eye
Being in peace definitely helps to keep your patience, but attitude # 9 (accepting impermanence) dialogues exactly with the realization that things change all the time .
When we are able to rationalize this fact, patience sprouts more gently, since it no longer makes sense to be irritated with something that soon will not exist anymore.
I do not always remember this truth. So, I have a song that helps me remember that and, therefore, maintain patience.
“Why bother about so little? Why cry, if tomorrow everything changes again? ”
4. You do not know the other’s story
It is easy to judge “bad” behavior when one does not know the reasons that led one to practice it.
Being aware of this, it is a little easier to maintain patience, is not it?
5. Everything is a matter of context
Just as it is not for us to “judge the reality that we do not know,” one must also understand the context before reacting to an isolated situation.
That does not mean you have to swallow all the frogs that croak in your face.
However, when we can assess the context – and only do it after deep breathing – it is possible to wait for a calmer time to make decisions about it.
Having patience does not mean accepting everything, but knowing how to express yourself gently in relation to what you do not accept (or do not understand).
And let’s face it: it often takes a lot more than nine deep breaths to express ourselves gently, do you agree?
6. Your impatience does not speed things up
The deadline is tight and two emergencies appeared that did not fit into his schedule.
You are late for work, decide to have coffee at the bakery and take longer than usual to deliver the order.
It’s 15 minutes to start the meeting and your car’s engine has blown.
Anyone who has never experienced a similar situation, does not know what it is to have their patience tested on the hard level !
But you know what’s curious about all this?
It is that losing patience not only does not speed things up, but can delay them even more.
Remember this before you burst!
7. Being impatient does not solve problems
Not every problem is related to delays.
It may be that you need to have a serious conversation with your parents, or else you must fire a friend.
Being impatient in these moments only brings anxiety to your heart, causing us to have tachycardia, tremulous voice and insecurity in solving problems.
So breathe. Just breathe, and only then decide what to do.
8. Losing Your Patience Ends Your Health
As stated in the previous paragraph, the state of impatience triggers a series of evil reactions to our organism .
Trembling, rapid heartbeat, wheezing, confusion and even nausea can be felt in this state.
So if it is not for the other, that is for you: take a deep breath, count to 10, respond with delicacy whenever possible and, when it is not possible, forgive yourself for the intemperance.
We are flawed human beings, yes, but when we are aware of what is bad for us, it becomes easier for us to become better for ourselves and, consequently, for everyone.
9. You can destroy relationships
The most precious advice my mother-in-law gave me when my boyfriend and I decided to move in together was “Take care of words.”
Cultivating good relationships – not just loving oneself – is a complex art that requires maturity, flexibility, respect and, above all, patience.
So before you lose it, try to remember that the relationship with whom you are impatient becomes fragile every time you explode.
Sometimes we have to put out some anguish, yes.
But is offending the other the smarter way to “ease”?
10. The mistake that you think could have been made by you
This may be the most painful reminder to do every day, but it is also one of the most important.
By understanding the context, accepting that you do not know the other’s story and realizing that people just want to be happy, it becomes easier to see that the other’s mistake might have been yours.
This is also a valuable exercise in empathy that helps us in the face of the most complicated situations.
If you can remember that, your patience will certainly withstand the urge to slip out of the street.
Bonus: If nothing succeeds, choose silence.
Silencing the heart when the barbs of anger are burning in your chest requires a lot of maturity.
The ego wants to scream, to explode, to vent their pain. But when we can choose silence, the situation can be resolved at a time when patience is reinstalled in the environment.
It does not mean throwing your sloppings down the rug and pretending there are no problems to be solved – no !
But silence gives us the opportunity to listen to our thoughts, to breathe deeply , to reflect with responsibility, and then to choose the right words to express our dissatisfaction.
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