The best Christian marriage advice you can follow is to bring God into your relationship daily. Doing so will help you keep his instruction regarding the treatment of your marriage mate. The Bible admonishes Christian husbands to love their wives like their own bodies and for wives to show deep respect for their spouse.
Like any other marriage, communication is key to maintaining happiness and building respect. Following this Christian marriage advice can help you and your spouse have a happy, healthy marriage for the rest of your lives.
Here are 7 secrets to know about communication in a Christian marriage.
1. Communicate Often [compromise, don’t let things fester, talk about anything you want, be respectful]
“With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace” – Ephesians 4:2-3
Looking through the Bible for Christian marriage advice, couples will see a theme: communicate regularly. Doing so will help maintain unity and peace in your relationship.
Learning to be a good listener, compromise, discuss problems, raise a family, and stay faithful to one another are all important areas of communication.
Couples who communicate regularly about issues both big and small not only please God, but they draw closer together and strengthen both their friendship and their marriage bond.
“An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” – Proverbs 24:26
The Bible is clear about God’s feelings on liars in Revelation 21:8, Proverbs 6:16-19, and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. Since it refers to Satan the Devil as the “father of the lie”, it is no surprise that not only does God detest dishonesty, but also states that liars will not inherit his kingdom.
These scriptures make it crystal clear that in order to have good communication and find favor with God, Christian couples should practice honesty in their marriage.
“Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” – Matthew 18:29-20
Since praying is your direct connection to God, it’s a great way to learn more about your spouse’s thoughts, opinions, worries, and goals. Praying is also a wonderful way to draw closer and connect as a married couple.
Discuss beforehand what both would like to address in the prayer. Philippians 4:6 reminds married couples that they can talk to God about any topic. It says to “let your petitions be made known to God.” If you are having a problem in your marriage, pray about it.
Be Kind with your Words
“Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person.” – Colossians 4:6
Part of healthy communication in marriage is showing one another kindness and respect. Arguments are not a time to verbally attack one another. Even when frustrated, loving Christian couples should look for ways to solve the issue at hand and compromise when possible.
Avoiding overreactions and unkind words will encourage spouses to come to one another with problems, comforting by knowing their spouse will always have their back.
Practice Touch Communication
“And look! A leper came up and did obeisance to him, saying: “Lord, if you just want to, you can make me clean.” So stretching out his hand, (Jesus) touched him, saying: “I want to! Be made clean.” Immediately his leprosy was cleansed away.” – Matthew 8:2,3
In ancient times, those with leprosy were commonly outcast from society and declared unclean because their disease was contagious. Religious leaders in Jesus’ time made additional, cruel laws regarding the treatment of lepers and sometimes even threw stones at them to keep them at a distance.
Jesus was almighty and all-powerful. He very well could have healed the leper without laying a hand on him, but he chose to heal him with a touch. Why?
Reason this way: as someone declared unclean by society, this leper likely hadn’t received physical touch or affirmations of affection in a very long time. Unlike the harsh treatment the leper had received from society, by laying a hand on him, Jesus showed him the ultimate kindness of touch.
This account is a wonderful example for married couples about the importance of communicating with the power of touch. The next time you and your spouse are talking to one another, do so holding hands and sitting close together. This will encourage kindness, compassion, and show love as you communicate.
Choose the Right Time to Talk
“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Jehovah, my Rock and my Redeemer” – Psalms 19:14
One of the best pieces of Christian marriage advice regarding communication is to choose the right time to speak to one another.
If you have a comment or serious concern to bring up with your spouse, would it be wise to bring it up as soon as they walk through the door after work? Probably not. Likely, this is a time when they will be hungry, tired, and less likely to have a productive conversation.
Use wisdom when deciding when to have important discussions with your spouse.
Have a Family Worship Night
“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them falls, the other can help his partner up. But what will happen to the one who falls with no one to help him up
Moreover, if two lie down together, they will stay warm, but how can just one keep warm? And someone may overpower one alone, but two together can take a stand against him. And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn apart.” – Ephesians 4:9-16
Having a regular family worship night each week has many benefits. Doing so helps you draw closer to God as a couple and keep his standards in your marriage. It’s also a great way to learn communication from successful Biblical couples such as Abraham and Sarah.
Having a weekly family worship night is also a great way to address any issues you are having in your marriage. For example, if you are having trouble communicating about your finances, why not make your family worship night revolve around what the Bible says about spending money wisely?
If you feel there is room for improvement regarding making the right friends, delve into the thinking behind the scripture at 1 Corinthians 15:33. Ask yourselves why Paul encouraged the Corinthian congregation to maintain good association and how unwholesome companions could damage your marriage.
Weekly Bible study as a couple can also help you learn to communicate about a personal illness, job loss, or even a death in your family.